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So I’m thinking this evening about things that I have collected from family members who have gone on before me.

I am surrounded by objects that belonged to others, and now belong to me.  I see these things every day, and touch many of them every day, and they are part of my life now.

That's one of Aunt Esther's mirrors on my living room wall.

That’s one of Aunt Esther’s mirrors on my living room wall.

In no particular order:

Grandma Carter: her formal china.  A living room table.  My favorite lamp.

Grandma Blocher: her formal silverware. A chenille bedspread.  An antique wall mirror.  Various pieces of cookware.  A great deal of lovely stemware.

Great-grandmother Slade: a double bed.

Aunt Esther: two wall mirrors.  Two lamps.  A bedroom suite.  An antique platform rocker, now reupholstered in my colors.  Some paintings.  And in a few days, a china cabinet.

My mother: Fireking Jade-ite dishes. An antique dining room table.  An antique buffet.

Christmas 2013

I spent three nights in Lee’s Summit this week.  The time at home included four visits to Beth’s home, a visit with Aunt Esther (who is failing at 101 years old), two services at Grace & Holy Trinity Cathedral, and of course time at my father’s house.  Christmas Day festivities were at Beth’s home.

I went to sleep on Christmas Eve, as I have for several years now, listening to ‘This Christmastide’ performed by the American Boy Choir, and to Lauridsen’s ‘O magnum mysterium’ in the Brompton Oratory rendition.

In these photos, my blog buds will find Karen and her partner Debbie and Karen’s children Blayne and Kristen, Beth and Robert and their three children Anna, Luke, and Joseph, my father and step-mother, my step-brother Greg, Aunt Esther, and various folks from the Cathedral.  And Anna’s boyfriend, Dan.  And Samson.

The tree

The holiday season has arrived at Chez Carter.  Samson’s ornament is on the tree.  Also on the tree are numerous ornaments created by mother, one painted by Aunt Esther many years ago, mementos of shows and casts, ornaments purchased on my various trips around the world, and gifts from students and friends over nearly 30 years of adult life.  This tree is filled with memories as well as life.  (But the tree itself, of course, is a pre-lit factory creation, most likely made in a shop in China.)

To home and back

At 7.30 p.m., I am back in Saint Louis after making the return trip from Lee’s Summit today, non-stop, in three hours and 23 minutes.  Samson slept the whole way, from the moment I got on I-70 in Independence to the moment I pulled up on Lawn Place.

While I took my D-XLR camera, I didn’t use it.  In fact, this whole trip was spent in driving, sleeping, eating, or visiting.  I suppose that’s what a whirlwind 23 hours in my hometown should be.

My father is having surgery on Thursday for cancer in his lymph nodes.  The cancer is consistent with a merkel cell that was removed from his arm two years ago.  He is a man of extraordinary religious faith, and will weather this latest ill health with dignity and aplomb, if also some soreness.  Further biopsies will determine what further course of action is necessary.

Meanwhile, my sister Karen is recovering well from surgery on her wrist.  I enjoyed laughing with her today!  And Beth and Robert and kids are all fine.  Anna will be 16 soon; both boys are in elementary school, one at either end of the age range.

Sadly, Aunt Esther has noticeably aged (she is 100, after all) in the last three months.  The sparkle is gone from her eyes, and she had a certain look that I’d not seen in her before.  I wonder if today’s brief visit will be my last.  I asked her to hang on until Christmas, but she hung on until 100, and truth-be-told she deserves a rest.

Here are shots from the last two days:

Summers wedding

Aunt Esther and Uncle John Summers on their wedding day:

They were married in Macon, Missouri, north of Columbia, where if I recall correctly Uncle John, discharged from the Army, was working for the USDA, and Aunt Esther for the state of Missouri.  (Don’t quote me on either fact.)

Here’s a shot of the church: